You know I’m only human. I’ve got my ex-girlfriend packing up her stuff around me. It’s a tense and very sad time in my life. What I perceived as a nasty and gratuitous comment comes in from out of the blue and I lashed back. Sue me.
I wasn’t upset because the writer of the email didn’t like my site. So what. It’s only a weblog. She could have just said no thanks or not replied at all. I don’t have a problem with her views on pornography. Instead she prejudged me as a person and made a remark that was way out of line. I just wish she had read my post “Leftovers” in which I discuss how women are perceived in society.
I learned a good lesson today. Next time I encounter a situation like this I handle it though email or ignore it completely. Not air it on this blog. We live and learn. Thanks to the readers for their feedback even though it stings.
I am going to leave the post up because it’s now part of this site. You get to see all of me. The good, the bad, and the ugly. To remove it would be hypocritical.
I am in a real bad place right now. I am going to leave this blog alone for a few days. I need to get my feelings about the breakup into some sort of perspective and regroup.
Don’t worry. I’ll be back.
I have plenty of stories.
I’m interested by the fact that she really didn’t take the time to read your blog, she just read long enough to find the things she wanted to see.
Oh, just ignore the wench. You shouldn’t have to be censored over something so trivial. Its human nature and lets be honest, you had some sage advice back there.
Man, I almost feel like I should apologize for her behavior, but fuck that noise because she doesn’t speak for women or even for feminists, just for her pitiful self. Let it be known that there are sex-positive feminists in the world who like porn and enjoy staring at the asses of their preferred gender(s); we just tend to be less vocal than the sex-negative types.
The lady wrote an email responding to your request,why feel the need to post it so people can insult her because she refused your invitation.Also why so many insulting names because she stated an opinion no matter how misguided you felt it was.
hey, u know wot? that site of her is down… LMAO
Amen to Brynn! Sing it, Sistah!
Ahhh….that would have set me off too. Your request and compliment put her in a position of power to make herself feel superior. She could have said…”my writing is a bit more conservative than yours and I just don’t feel comfortable enough with your blog’s content to link it.”.
It reminds me of a time I got a fast new car and I was telling my friends about how fast I went one late night on the interstate.” Everyone was cheering me on in this obviously immature little moment of one-time risk I had taken. Then this girl that I hardly know…starts yelling at me for putting her children at risk as she sometimes drives on that interstate. While she may have been right…all I could do was shake my head. I’ve noticed this with many woman over the years….especially super attractive ones that can get away with saying just about anything in the company of men who probably all want to bang them.
Yeah you didn’t handle that maturely at all. Don’t take it as criticism because it’s been over a decade – I imagine you’re probably a different person now.
I first read this blog when I began college a couple years ago and wanted to go into serving to get an idea of what to expect. Upon reading it again, I recognize it’s got a pretty bad attitude to it.
Yeah, people can be shitty and they can be annoying. At times though, you take things pretty personally and judge harshly, and it comes across as self-important.
And by today’s standards, the blog gets plain mysoginistic. You can find people attractive, its all in how you discuss it. Restaurants can be a pretty sexualizing position for women and it’s a pain in the ass because no one is interested in creepy people leering and touching them inappropriately – you talk about how much you hate customers just grabbing your arm. Anyway, you might just be gibbering what this says in a mocking tone to yourself if you’re still anything like who you are in these posts, but how you handled that email was disrespectful.
The you at this time needed to get over themselves, not just with the previous post, but in general.